The “grass is not greener” on the other side…

Stop comparing the worst of your husband to the “best” of what you see online…

Read that again and let it sink in…

I had a hard day, earlier this week…

The kind of day where it just feels like too much…the dishes, the laundry, the messes, the cooking…all of it…I felt like I was drowning.

I called my husband and pretty much had an epic melt down on the phone and when I hung up, I was so tempted to categorize all that he does and all that I do and “wish” that he would “cook more” like the “chef husbands” on IG or “see the messes and clean up right away…like the “really orderly husbands” that you see on IG, that other wives display…it was a bad trek yall…I had to shut those thoughts down and just keep doing the next right thing. Got the dishes seen about, one by one…got another load of laundry in…cleaned up the messes on the floor…I put worship music on and just praised God while pretty much falling apart doing “the next right thing…”

Anyway, Eden ran over to me while I was in the garden, watering the plants and said “Daddy got these for you…” It was a beautiful bouquet of roses. I looked up and saw him standing in the doorway…he came home earlier from work than usual and said “baby, I’m here to help…what can I do?” You guyssss, if conviction could hit like a ton a bricks- it hit me right then! The fact that earlier on I was even tempted to compare all of the things he “didn’t do” to things that other people’s husbands do (on IG, mind you)…the fact that I almost let the enemy bring such unnecessary division…it got to me. (Continued in comments…)

I had such a perspective shift and reminder, that my husband is uniquely made and what he brings to our marriage, is unique to OUR marriage and the needs of OUR family. He is an absolute blessing. There are soooo many things that he is good at- one of the biggest things being his steadfast love and kindness, that never waivers, (even when I have a melt down).

So let this be a reminder to you, to celebrate all of the things that your husband is GOOD at. All of the ways he blesses you. Comparison is the absolute thief of joy and such a trap of the enemy. Don’t fall for it. Your husband is YOUR husband, and does not need to be like anyone else’s. Celebrate allllll of the good that he does, instead of magnifying what he doesn’t do. He is a blessing to your family.